Valentine’s day – it’s such a divided holiday. So many people dread this time of the year. People that are single get the question ‘so who are you spending your holiday with’ or ‘do you have anyone yet?’. People that are in relationships typically get the ‘when is he popping the question’ and ‘are you guys in love’. It really stirs up questions that are unanswered and feelings.
A few of the things that I mentioned in my 2018 post seem to apply pretty well to this holiday: to be happy in the present, don’t take life so seriously, that relationships take work, and to love people, things, and moments. Another thing I really wanted to do was find a church that I liked, and to practice my faith some more. I went to a new church yesterday (that I fell in love with btw), and the message came at the perfect timing. I had been feeling down and a little sad that I was watching other friends find their person, while I am not with mine yet. The message was about being single, imagine the timing of that.
The message was about how being single is a gift and that a lot of people don’t use this gift, or try to return it. People that are single typically have more time, and their main focus is (most of the time), themselves. Married people put their spouses and kids first. They often have less time than single people because instead of planning for one, they have to plan for two or more. In a church sense, this allows you to give more and more of your time to God and to helping others around the world.
I really took this message to heart in every sense of the way, outside of the church sense as well. Being single is a gift to be selfish, to go out and help others on your own time, and to explore life and the things you want to do in your life before you have to think for two or more. So with that, whoever is having a Galentine’s day out there, I hope you take this day as a gift. You get to be with your girlfriends – multiple people that you have so much love for, celebrating your friendship and making each other’s days – making memories.
With that, we also talked about marriage. It’s definitely hard work – like I said, you have to think for two, if not more! You won’t always be on the same page and won’t always be on the same timeline. But love is one of the greatest feelings in the world. It’s so important to be vulnerable and good to each other. Communicate – talk about your feelings and aspirations and dreams and hopes for your relationship. Let each other know what page you’re on, so you can align together. From there, still remember to be individuals aspiring your individual wants, your dreams and helping others. You’re not the same person, which is why it’s still so important to fulfill your own wants as well. Working on your own independent needs will make you stronger as a couple.
For Valentine’s day, remember to be intentional. It’s not the holiday that makes it special, what you do and how you are reminded of your feelings is what makes it special. Make it a big day for your loved one, let them know your feelings for them – valentine’s and galentine’s!
With that all said, I wanted to share some ideas and some cute cards for Valentine’s and Galentine’s day! I broke them down for you below 🙂
What To Do
- Take a road trip with your favorite gals (I’m headed to Austin with my roommate!)
- Host a wine night with chick flicks, face masks, and allll the good foods
- Binge watching The Bachelor, Parks & Rec, and Magic Mike are all musts
- Have a potluck dinner
- Game night – play all of your favorite games now and old school games
- I’m talking Cards Against Humanity and Catch Phrase, but also Mall Madness and Pretty Pretty Princess
- Karaoke night and sushi
- Get all dress up and head out to your favorite dance bars
- A day of pampering – get your nails and hair done and head to the spa
- Go on a wine tasting or brewery tour
- Treat yo-self
- Spend a day going to your favorite stores and buying things you’ve been waiting to buy
If you’re in Dallas, check out All Good Things – it’s seriously the cutest store – they have some of the best cards and small gifts!
What To Do
- Plan a picnic – find a special secluded place at the lake, even bring your dogs
- Bonus: cut your sandwiches into hearts 💗
- Take a full day hike – go camping together
- Make a new meal you’ve never made before – but this time, light all the candles, prep everything together, listen to music, and don’t worry about cleaning up after
- Bonus: make heart-shaped pizzas
- Surprise your significant other with surprises all day long – breakfast in bed, bring them lunch to work, end the night with a surprise bonfire with smores
- Recreate your first date
- Get a couple’s massage
- Go to a drive-in theatre – if you’re in Dallas, there is the Galaxy Drive-In Theatre pretty close!
- Spend the day driving to the places where your favorite memories together are
- An intentional dinner out
- I say inentional because dinner is pretty common – make it special by talking about things you want in life, things you love about each other, and things that make you happy together